The BEST gift to give?
If you’re like me, you want to give meaningful gifts to those you love at Christmas and on their birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Maybe we’ve imagined someone special saying, “You gave me the BEST gift!” Not that it’s a contest or anything….
Problem is, “gift giving” is not one of my love languages. In other words, it’s not my preferred method of expressing love, and while I like gifts, there are other things that make me feel more loved. So gift-giving occasions are awkward for me. Anyone else?
In fact, in my world, the BEST gift to give or receive is something you can’t ask Santa for, and it turns out IKEA (in Brazil at least), agrees. Watch this.
The OTHER Letter Video:
Yes this made me tear up. Yes, I blame it on pregnancy hormones.
What do kids really want from their parents?
This is a year-round kind of thing, sure, but it got me thinking how this time of year the BEST GIFTS are really pushed aside in favor of toys, gadgets, and other price-tag symbols of affection.Don't just give presents. Give presence. pic.twitter.com/fxuAPV5yrB Click To Tweet
In this gift buying frenzy season…
Here are 3 things to keep in mind as we search for the best gifts for our loved ones:
- Don’t stress so much. Your sibling/spouse/child won’t remember every gift you give them over the years, but what they’ll always remember is how loved you made them feel. So remember the reason for the gifts.
- Take this time to understand your loved ones better. As you pick gifts, you’re thinking about how unique each person is, yeah? So take some extra time to think about who they really are and what they’re passionate about. Commit to saying or doing things that will encourage and support them all year long.
- Take their love language into consideration. Remember, giving/receiving gifts isn’t everyone’s main thing. Make your gift more meaningful by thinking beyond what object (toys, gadgets) or experience (trips, memberships) your loved one wants. Think about how you can present the gift using their love language (described in the book below by Gary Chapman). Click here for a breakdown of the 5 love languages. Read on for ideas on how to incorporate that into your loved ones gift presentation.
Presenting Gifts With Love
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
If your loved one really lights up with compliments and comments on their talents or skills, present their gift with a well thought out message (verbal or written) that expresses what you admire about them. Bonus if the gift relates to that somehow, but it doesn’t have too. They’ll be so touched by the words of affirmation that whatever gift came with it will always remind them of that. Example: Giving someone a tool set? Tell her or him how much you admire and rely on their ability to make and/or fix things.
ACTS OF SERVICE
If actions speak louder than words to your intended gift recipient, consider adding the good ‘ol “Gift Coupon Book” to your gift list. Pick 5 things you can do for them that you know they’ll really appreciate (e.g. make them dinner & clean it up afterward, do one of their chores/errands for them for a day/week, give them a massage, wash their car, groom their dog, whatever). Pick things that you know will reduce stress or push them forward toward their dreams.
Well lucky you. When your loved one sees gifts themselves as a love language, you only need to focus on the gift selection. A little more attention to the wrapping and presentation adds excitement, though. Take a tip from my mom and don’t just look at their Amazon wish list. Think about what they’ve talked about in the past, things they mention a few times over the course of a year, or check their Pinterest board.
They say the greatest gift you can give is your time because it’s something you can never get back. In the video above, TIME was what most kids wanted from their parents. This is my top love language but it’s often hard to understand how to give this as a gift. HINT: It doesn’t mean sitting down and talking about feelings one-on-one. Please don’t do that to me. 😉
If you want to give the gift of quality time, consider what your loved one likes to do or wants to do, get them an appropriate gift, AND present it with the promise and plan to do that with them. Buy your cinephile a sought-after movie AND express your intent to watch it WITH him. Buy your avid hiker a trekking pole AND tell her when you’re available to hit the trail head WITH her. Then actually show up.
For all of your cuddle bugs and hand-holding addicts, physical touch that is appropriate for the relationship goes a long way. When you hand the gift over, sit close to your parent or child, or put your arm on the shoulder of your best friend or sibling. For romantic couples, an IOU “coupon” for a no-strings-attached foot rub might be fun.
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Most of these ideas are really simple. Still, knowing how to personalize your gift presentation for your loved ones can help them feel how much that gift really IS a symbol of your love.How to PRESENT with love! Giving gifts & using love languages. pic.twitter.com/u32nIyG7Nn Click To Tweet
What would you ask Santa for this year?
What do you really want from your parent/spouse/best friend?
Do you know your love language?